Blogging seems like such an easy thing. You sign up for a free blog, you write some content, take some pretty pictures, and BAM! Everybody loves you!
I’m here to tell you, I’m two months in and it is not easy.
I haven’t found my “niche market”
Everyone says that having a niche is so important to get a solid foundation of followers. But I don’t want to write about any one thing all the time.
My crafting skills are a work in progress, and I definitely don’t have the experience (or time) to consistently post tutorials on various projects. Writing about my struggle with weight loss, depression and anxiety can be exhausting for me, and probably not the kind of thing a reader would like to see constantly. My parenting style is pretty hands-off, I teach my kids how to be independent, so at this point, there’s not much for me to do and not much for me to talk about. I cook simple dinners that don’t require a bunch of ingredients or time in the kitchen, mostly made up on the fly, without a real recipe, so I definitely don’t have the content for a food blog.
Basically, I don’t do anything well enough or consistently enough to make it the focus of my blog.
Except drinking coffee, I do that very well, and very consistently.
I’m not good at promoting myself
This post over at Bloomin’ Ash resonates with me. Promoting myself means believing that I have something to offer, that what I’m writing matters, that it is worth someone’s time and attention. “They” say that in order to be successful, you must give solutions to a problem or teach the reader something new. Most of the time, my posts are for me. I’m hoping there are a few people out there who are in the same boat, who need to feel like they’re not the only person in the world that feels the way that they do.
How do I promote that? How do I “sell” my thoughts? “Hey, I wrote down my thoughts for half an hour and they might not mean much to you, but they do to me, so check it out.” It doesn’t work that way!
I’m easily overwhelmed
I started this blog on whim and hope. I’m constantly doing research and planning, but the second something seems complicated, my brain will not let me figure it out.
I need to work on SEO (Search Engine Optimization), but I don’t know where to start. I’ve printed pages and pages of information and stuck them all in a folder because looking at them makes me head spin.
I felt the same way when I first read about creating hidden pins for pinterest. Reading about it and not enacting it made it hella complicated! But when I stopped thinking about it, and started doing it, one step at a time, it was really easy.
That’s just how my mind works, and I’m learning to work around that. It’s okay to be overwhelmed, it’s okay to put something off until you’re ready to break it down into smaller steps. Just don’t give up completely!
I am a people pleaser
The general public tends to annoy me but damn it, I need everyone to like me! I am polite to a fault, I will bend over backwards for everyone, and I can not say no. While these are amazing qualities in the customer service field, they make almost everything else difficult. Constructive criticism feels like a personal attack. Not seeing growth in my following means nobody likes me, right? Writing my thoughts and feelings means being honest, what if people don’t like me because of what I really think?
It’s scary to put yourself out there, it’s even scarier when you believe your worth depends on how other people, even strangers, feel about you.
This is proof that I don’t know what I’m doing, I’ve presented the four problems I’ve had with blogging, and zero solutions!
The only solution is to do it anyway.
Work through the struggles, ignore the negative voices in your head, and just do it.